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Week 17a Till death do us part

Just when I figure the MKMMA (Master Key MasterMind Alliance) course couldn’t possibly get any deeper, it opens up yet another crevice and swallows me up to think yet deeper and yet longer on some every day matters. This week is no exception.

obituary graphicDeath. Yes…an everyday matter of fact occurrence. It seems somewhat morbid, perhaps, yet everything has an opposite so where there is death there is life, so in fact, I found myself thinking deeper about life simply because I was thinking deeper about death. Strange and yet so true.

Our assignment this week, along with our usual readings and exercises is to read an obituary each day…and not one on-line…a real handheld paper version of an obit in a newspaper of some kind. I have to admit, I resisted the physical paper based request, at first. Why the difference I wondered? Then after some contemplation, I realized there really was a difference when you read about someone’s life holding their story in your hands versus following their story on a screen. Somehow it felt more respectful to read about their life and their survivors with their story firmly held between my fingers. Crazy, but true.


We were not given any more detailed instructions about reading one obituary each day. There was no need to hear more about what we were to do with the reading. The message our great Master Key teachers are teaching is quite simple. What would we like our own obituary to read? What can we do now, today, next week, and so on, to have a most wonderful obituary written about how much we gave and shared and loved passionately in our short stay while passing through this part of our journey.

It reminded me of a concept I have shared with others I have done some personal work with. I have invited people to imagine themselves sitting in their rocking chairs, on their front porch when they were about 96 years old, and surrounded by all the people that crossed their paths during their lifetime. Imagining themselves hearing from all those people about what impact they made during the times of crossing paths. What would we want to hear the people say about ourselves? What stories would we want to hear that perhaps made a difference, big or small?

The design work to hearing the stories I want to hear when I am in my rocking chair at 96, continues from where I have left off so far in building value, and it can start now, to build the impacts and the memories people will have of me by then. It’s just a decision, and it is mine alone. I design my life with the end in mind, working backwards, to be what I want others to be able to say about me, when I welcome them to my front porch not so many years from now.

“She is whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.”…that will be a most welcomed description to hear.

What would you like to hear on your porch, years from now?

16 thoughts on “Week 17a Till death do us part”

  1. Louise says:

    You certainly expressed the meaning of this week’s assignment so eloquently. Yes, deeper and deeper thought as we go through the MKMMA journey.

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Some days I feel like Alice in the rabbit hole :)

  2. WOW Lydia! I completely missed that one! But you are absolutely right! I thought it was symbolic of letting the “Old Blue Print” die. BOY…..I missed it. We already kill the “OBP:” weeks ago. I have heard before, “When you die, if you could come back to hear what those you left behind were saying about you, what would you want it to be.” But….you know what Lydia, we don’t need to think about that anymore. Because if we greet each day with love in our heart, there will only be good things to say about us!! lol!

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Yes John…I totally agree…let’s write the remaining years’ script in such a way we could only know there would be fabulous things said about us!

  3. Wow Lydia, You really opened my eyes regarding last weeks assignment. Reading the obits and seeing their pictures made me think about that person and what they accomplished in their lives. You made me think about my life. Thanks Lydia Take Care and have a Fantastic Day.

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Thanks for the comments Steve. It sure has been a most interesting week, that is for sure.

  4. Fantastic blog! As alway you have great insight and deep reflections

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Thx so much Cheryl! It sure has been an interesting week to say the least.

  5. I agree, Lydia, It’s like we are being given a chance to re-write what the last part of our lives will be and inspire! It’s a great gift we’re being given through this course!

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Yes Steve, like a big wakeup call for the last 1/2!

  6. Beth Kennedy says:

    Lydia, As always, your blog is full of practical wisdom and warm advice. Love it and you!

  7. lydjohnson says:

    Thanks Beth….hugs to you. xo

  8. masterkeymarco1 says:

    Lydia, thank you for another great Blog post! I liked what you wrote about looking back at age 96 and imagining what others would be saying about the impact we had on their life and how we lived…very inspiring :)

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Thanks Mark…somehow I get the feeling many would be saying many great things about you as you sit and listen in your rocking chair at 96!

  9. masterkeynow says:

    I don’t see death as morbid, I see it as going home. Not a bad thought indeed, but I do like to leave where I have been better than when I arrived. I would like to look back on my life as a better world for my family and community. That is what I really strive for.

    1. lydjohnson says:

      Yes, I totally agree that leaving with a positive impact is a great way to go through life. Thanks for sharing.

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